You are not obligated to forgive. Unforgiven is on an external side of a boundary where feelings of mistrust, disloyal, deception and abuse is located. These feelings are felt and often actualized by the offender. The offender can be a stranger, a former friend or alleged friend, relative, acquaintance or non-acquaintance. Restoraton of a relatonship is dependent on you. You have the option to forgive and not restore a relationship, to not forgive and not restore a relationship, or even not forgive but restore the relationship. It is all dependent on YOU.
Unforgiveness is an affirmation of a person's decision to not forgive. Yes, an affirmation.
Many perceive unforgiveness as not having peace or holding a grudge. Yet, when an action is egregious and one overlooks it, it is perceived as having selective amnesia of some sorts. Yes, unforgiveness can be an affirmation on a decision to not forgive. This affirmation can be aligned with having peace. It can be peace in your decision making and can be peace to move on but keep the status of unforgiveness. The saying, "I forgive but not don't forget" is in some cases really unforgiven. This is your right to not forgive and still be at peace. It is your right to not forgive and and not have peace. Peace within your mind, body, and soul can allow one to be okay to move on and be okay or even exceptionally well.
Uplifted Today created the concept of "Quench Your Thirst, Hydrate Your Mind" after contemplating how often we are compelled to satisfy our immediate need and not our growth and development in situations. In our daily relationships whether personal or business, we have to evaluate the effort we are placing into our holistic growth as individuals. You have to determine the barometer of measuring your holistic growth. Uplifted Today developed a set of key questions to help measure holistic growth. What did I learn? Did I learn something that can be apply to me personally or shared with someone to inspire their growth? What effort did I contribute to this situation, process or relationship? What are some of the tangible outcomes? Uplifted Today believes knowledge is a tangible outcome because it can shift from knowledge to applied knowledge in different circustances. Uplifted Today encourages people to journal knowledge acquired and developing strategies to apply th...
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